Twilight

I would like to apologize in advance to Katy, Katie and 85% of the female population out there. I would also like to state that I am only about halfway through New Moon, so I don't know how it ends. (But yes Katy and Katie I will probably finish all four just so my dislike can be well informed loathing.)
I was talking to Erin and Craig at church today about the movie and just was reminded again about how creeped out I am by the concept. There are lines in there like, "You're my life now" and "The lion falls in love with the lamb" CREEPY. A vampire creeps into her room at night and watches her sleep. He wants to DRINK her blood. Bella is in love with someone, that for all intents and purposes wants to murder her. MURDER. Oh sure, he doesn't (so far). Sure, he restrains himself. How big of him. How kind.
WHAT?
Are we really this obsessed with a series of books that glorifies such relationships? Ok, it's fiction I get it, I really get it. I promise.
I get that these books are probably no different than the song on the radio and the Lifetime movie of the week. But it's just so intense, so obsessive and completely wrapped up in another person. It makes me feel sad and bad thinking about it.

I had obsessive, all encompassing, angst riddled relationships when I was a teenager (and into my early 20s) and it is awful. It isn't romantic, it's awful. The ripple effects are just now subsiding. It's still affecting my relationships to date, not just the romantical kind.
It just seems so unhealthy to be so enraptured, so wrapped up and have your identity so deeply tangled with someone elses. Because people are flawed, they are damaged and they leave. People make mistakes and people will let you know, make you angry and upset you. What then?
Where does that leave your identity then?
Nowhere. It leaves you empty. Void of anything but desperation and longing for a death that will silence the ache that has invaded every inch of your person.

It's just to familiar to me to truly enjoy. Well, other than the whole vampire thing of course.
The plot is ok, the writing is compelling (especially now that I've gotten to New Moon, which I think it much better from a literary standpoint than Twilight) but the emotions it's reminding me of are scary and it makes me nervous for the flocks of girls that see this as an ideal relationship. Love is not pain, it should not hurt. It's hard, it's a lot of work, but it isn't endless depths of desperation and depression covered in sobs and wails.

So while I can appreciate the Twilight series to a degree as a 29 year old, it makes me very uncomfortable for all the teens that are falling in love with a murderous man that walks a fine line of not killing the one he proclaims to love.